Thursday, May 29, 2008

Got an Update?

Well, sort of. Not really.
Basically, this is what it is....
There are not currently any babies in the orphanages in the provinces that our agency works in. Since a baby has to be in an orphanage for 60 days prior to being made available for adoption, there needs to be babies by July 1st in order for things to start moving and for folks to get their referrals by September 1 and we are not on the top of the list as far as we know. I am trying to be super optimistic and ultimately know when God has her ready for us, we will come together but geeze, 6 months waiting and no movement is not making this look good at all. In the mean time, I take time each morning to imagine holding her, signing the big book in Vietnam at the Giving and Receiving Ceremony and bringing her home. I am really excited about being a Mom, whenever that may happen for me.
Until we hear, we wait while each day passes with no word of our daughter.
Ugh, just typing that breaks my heart even though I know good things come to those who wait, I am trying so hard to be good and patient, but some days are really hard.

Here is my request...
Please put it out there for us (via prayer, meditation, etc.) that the word gets out to the villages around where the orphanages are that there is a safe place for women to bring their babies if they cannot keep them for whatever the circumstance. There are people in the world that will love and raise them and give them opportunities that they otherwise may not have.

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Olive's Lavish Wishlist

I am sure this is what Olive would like from Lavish when she gets here.
Super Cute and overpriced onesie

These cute toys


This softie Hedgehog


This Stroller Blanket

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Staying Positive

I have been away for a few days - went on a road trip with my best girl Angela who moved to Colorado (so sad). It was nice to get away from all the drama in my life that surrounds our adoption process. I needed the break. I actually got to laugh super hard on my trip, which was such a great release.
Anyway, I have turned over a new leaf and am super positive about our adoption - not that I was far from that before, but was a bit knocked down. I really think and believe we are going to get our referral by September 1.
If you want to comment, that is fine, but if you are not positive about this as well, please do not let your fingers do the talking on this one.
Thanks for all of the support I have been getting some from people I don't even know.
I am so grateful for each of you and I glad you are on my side.
Lemke's and Szarek's you all mean the WORLD to me and I love you!

Sunday, April 27, 2008

DEVASTATION

Really upset all weekend, left work to hibernate a bit on Friday. With our new timeline in my last post, this isnt looking good for us but we are pressing on. I am going to be on pins and needles until September.

From the US Embassy website:

Adopted Children Immigrant Visa Unit
Warning Concerning Adoptions in Vietnam
April 2008
The Department of State continues to urge prospective adoptive parents and adoption service providers not to initiate new adoptions from Vietnam at this time. The 2005 Memorandum of Agreement, required by Vietnamese law to authorize adoptions between the United States and Vietnam, expires on September 1, 2008. In addition, recent field investigations have revealed incidents of serious adoption irregularities, including forged or altered documentation, mothers paid, coerced or tricked into releasing their children, and children offered for adoption without the knowledge or consent of their birth parents.
The United States is strongly committed to processing legitimate intercountry adoptions from Vietnam if possible. Our primary concern is to ensure that the children and families involved in the adoption process are protected from exploitation. The Government of Vietnam shares this concern. Both countries acknowledge that more needs to be done to address deficiencies in the current system.
On April 25, the Government of Vietnam announced that it will allow adoption to be completed in cases where prospective adoptive parents have been matched with a child and received an official referral prior to September 1, 2008. It further stated that in accordance with Vietnamese law, the DIA will suspend the acceptance of new dossiers on July 1, 2008. On September 1, 2008 any dossier that has not received a referral will be closed and returned to the Adoption Service Provider. In view of the processing time required in Vietnam from placement to the Giving and Receiving Ceremony, an adoption process begun now cannot be completed before the current Agreement expires.
Prospective adoptive parents should be aware that documents relating to adoptions in Vietnam, such as birth certificates, abandonment reports, relinquishment agreements, and investigative reports are generally issued by orphanage directors, local People’s Committees, Provincial Departments and the Department for International Adoptions (DIA). The facts asserted in these documents are not verified by the issuing officials. Attempts by U.S. officials to verify the accuracy of these documents have routinely uncovered evidence of fraudulent or inaccurate information. Therefore, documents issued by the authorities listed above, and any other documents containing information not verified by the issuing authority, cannot be considered adequate evidence of the facts claimed. They may be used in conjunction with primary and contemporaneous secondary evidence, or must be independently verified by U.S. officials in Vietnam, before they can be considered valid for immigration purposes. (http://travel.state.gov/visa/frvi/reciprocity/reciprocity_3705.html)
Consular officers have routinely completed field verifications of orphan status in over 35 provinces in Vietnam. However, in some cases, Vietnamese officials have prevented the U.S. Government from conducting independent field inquiries into the status of children identified in I-600 petitions. Embassy outreach, as well as support from adoption agency officials, have thus far allowed independent investigations to resume in some areas that were previously impeded. We continue robust efforts to resolve this issue. Unfortunately, it is impossible to predict when we can complete the field inquiries in areas which are still closed to our staff.
The U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Service and the Department of State have instituted procedures to verify that children identified for placement meet the requirements of Vietnamese and U.S. law, before the child has been adopted under Vietnamese law. Information about these procedures is available from USCIS or through their website http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis. The Embassy strongly advises prospective adoptive parents not to travel to Vietnam until they have received notification from the Embassy that their case is ready for final processing and travel is appropriate. Parents should contact the Embassy immediately if anyone, including their adoption service provider, encourages them to travel to Vietnam prior to receiving this notification. The Embassy can work together with adoption service providers, Vietnam’s Department of International Adoptions, and local authorities to resolve issues such as the scheduling of a Giving and Receiving Ceremony.

Thursday, April 24, 2008

New Wait Time

10-15/18 months is the most updated wait time. It was worded exactly like that “10-15/18”, they should just say 12-18.
So, minus the 5.5 we have under our belts it could be as soon as Fall of 2008 or as late as May 2009 that we get the call and then we would have to wait to travel SO maybe by my 35th birthday I will be a Mom. Honestly, I can’t imagine 2 more Mother’s Day’s passing without my baby! This year is going to be hard enough.
I am going nuts, having a hard time, but will get over it. Really, I know there is no telling at what rate children are going to be up for adoption and there is NOTHING we can do. I have written all the people I can write as a waiting parent (i.e.: government officials).
So……
We are taking on a home improvement project per my Mom's suggestion. Tim and I are going to gut and finally paint the living room, bedroom and kitchen! I need one more thing to help pass the time and there is no time like the present to get the house ready for when Olive comes home. A fresh, clean, new coat of paint will revive our place a little I hope and help make the wait not so bad. It is going to be a HUGE undertaking because we have a lot of cracks to fill, sand, prime, etc. but we are looking forward to it. Now, if I could just commit to a color or two!

Sunday, April 20, 2008

Have you seen these?

Just saw these in babytalk magazine and think they are so super cute!
Check em out at :http://www.rufflebutts.com/

Thursday, April 10, 2008

5 months and 3 days

Honestly, I can't believe we have been waiting 5 months and 3 days for our referral. It seems to fly by, really. I cannot tell a lie. I think part of it is that I have made myself super busy during this time for that exact reason.
We are still number 21 on the list. I think I may have mentioned it before but our agency is keeping us at the same number through the entire process. It makes it hard though to know where we really are. Oh, well, I guess I like surprises.
I can report that our agency has just gotten licensed in 2 new provinces so maybe that will move things along a bit. I am not sure. I mean, really, we can't really guess at what rate people are having children now, can we? I know when the right one comes along, she will be ours.
Until then, I keep praying that her birth mother has enough food to keep her healthy during her pregnancy and that she is well taken care of and can get the care she needs.
Just wanted to post something to keep you all in the loop.

Friday, March 28, 2008

Well Hello Cuties!

I was just doing a little look see at Target Baby online and look at the cute goodies they have!
First is this chair, which I love. After seeing Frankie just about flip himself out of the bumbo chair, I think I would prefer to get this one that has a tray to sort of restrain the baby (not in a bad way) and keep her seated when she gets the urge to boogie during meal time.

Check out this little lady as well. What a cute little ride on toy. Not sure how practical it is, but it is super cute. I will have to enjoy it in the photo though - I don't really think this is something we must have.

You go Target! When I decide what I have left to purchase or register for, I think that is place I will go. As soon as things start moving I can get back to thinking about a baby shower, etc. Just want to wait until we get the referral or see some substantial movement on the list.

Face Lift

I know, I have changed the header and look of this blog a couple times now, but I think I will keep this one for a while.
With no news, I don't have much to report.
We are in for the long haul and know that when God is ready for us to meet our little one, he will bring her to us.

Thursday, March 27, 2008

6-8 more of these....really?

I am by nature, a pretty patient person. I will admit that this year does seem to be flying by before my eyes. But when I think about the numbers, really, we have 6-8 more months of waiting for our referral if things go according to what our agency is telling us. Here are some things I keep reminding myself of when I get to chomping at the bit.

  1. I would rather have to wait and have things be done ethically than being sped through the process.
  2. I would rather wait now than have a hang up when we get our referral like some other families. I feel so bad for them. I cant imagine being matched with a child and not being able to go and get them and bring them home.
  3. All good things come to those who wait.